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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on October 21, 2025 by tricialathrop

October 20

I’d describe this week as bittersweet. My son will marry the love of his life this week. Mai is a delight. Norm often said that she was good for Robert. I see that they bring out the best in each other.

I can’t help but consider the fact that Norm will miss this celebration. He would have come up with a wonderful welcome and the perfect inclusion of events in Robert’s life that would have been appropriate and made people laugh.

I can’t even think about the day without crying…I’m hoping for emotional stamina to make it through the day without making a crying scene. Tears yes, uncontrollable sobbing…no.

I stopped on the way to visit my daughter and grandchildren. We went to a “Punkin’ Farm”. They had a corn pit where the kids could play, a fenced in area with corn kernels about 8 inches deep. It was like sand at the beach, they rolled in it, piled it into piles, and filled their pockets. Sawyer pretended to be one of the skeletons coming out of the ground in Halloween decorations.

I could see Norm in the corn with them, making them squeal with laughter as they filled his pockets with corn and covered his legs. Norm would have encouraged Sawyer to jump between the rolls of hay like Sierra. They would have done several trips down the giant slide and actually shot the corn cobs through the targets.

As I said, a bittersweet week.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for Mai joining our family.

I pray for the strength to hold it together so that the wedding will not become about my sorrow, but about the joy of Rob and Mai finding each other.

I rejoice that even though we go through times of sorrow, we can find joy amidst the sorrow.

Where’s the joy? We will celebrate the union of Mai and Robert.

“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24

Remembering Norm and celebrating Rob and Mai…bittersweet. it’s all good!

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on October 11, 2025 by tricialathrop

October 10

I’ve struggled this whole week with feeling overwhelmed. It reached a point of paralysis, where I didn’t have the mindset or the energy to do anything. I’ve got a lot on my plate, and I found myself unable to move forward.

This morning during my quiet time with the Lord, I wrote in my journal that I was edgy and not at peace. I needed hope. I read Psalm 70 in which David wrote, “I am afflicted and needy.”

The middle of the Psalm deals with David praying against the enemies that humiliated and shamed him. I thought, I don’t have enemies other than my own pride and procrastination, but those very things hold me back, causing shame when I think I’ve failed, and keep me from moving forward.

But the rest of the Psalm, the request for help from God, knowing that God is my help and my deliverer, ended with the plea, “Do not delay.”

I listened to a book last week, “The Power of Writing It Down” by Allison Fallon. So I decided to write down what had me stressed. I found that by writing it out, it wasn’t quite as overwhelming as I had thought. While it’s a lot, it’s manageable.

So once again, the Lord gave me what I needed before I knew the need.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful that God remains faithful to me and always provides what I need.

I pray for a heart to glorify God in all that I say and do.

I rejoice that He is my salvation, my fortress and my deliverer.

Where’s the joy? It’s in knowing that God is always there, even when I’m stressed and feeling sorry for myself.

O God, hasten to deliver me; O Lord, hasten to my help.

Let those be ashamed and humiliated who seek my life; Let those be turned back and dishonored who delight in my hurt.

Let those be turned back because of their shame, who say “Aha, aha!”

Let all who seek You rejoice and be glad in You; And let those who love Your salvation say continually, “Let God be magnified.”

But I am afflicted and needy; hasten to me O God!

You are my help and my deliverer; O Lord, do not delay.

Psalm 70

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on September 29, 2025 by tricialathrop

September 28

Some days I go along just fine, and then the pain of the loss and the ensuing loneliness hit me like a ton of bricks. It seems that I won’t be able to stand under the heaviness of it all.

Intellectually I can reason it all out…this is normal. It’s just a feeling that will pass, but in the midst it is a struggle. My tendency is to isolate, and that feeds the feeling of loneliness. Reaching out is difficult and runs the chance of rejection. Rejection is a strong word, people have busy lives and are not responsible for my emotional well being.

I’m learning how to walk this road and deal with the times of intense loneliness. I won’t always be able to count on family and friends, but I can always count on the Lord to help me through.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful that I am surrounded by family and friends who care.

I pray for courage and strength to make it through the tough times, and to remember to reach out and encourage others in their times of trial.

I rejoice in the faithfulness of God, who is with me on my loneliest days and has promised to never leave me nor forsake me.

Where’s the joy? Today, I muddled through without a lot of joy. And that’s okay, I have hope for tomorrow.

But let all who take refuge in You be glad, let them ever sing for joy;

And may You shelter them, that those who love Your name may exult in You.

Psalm 5:11

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on September 22, 2025 by tricialathrop

September 21

This time last year, Norm was itching and in pain, hardly sleeping. It took until late October to get a diagnosis, but in the meantime, we tried to figure out what was going on. Nothing we tried worked and each test meant a ten day wait for a result, which led to another test, then another, and another…it seemed endless.

Now, I’m trying to move on, not sit in the house with the curtains closed, watching endless TV and crying.

I went square dancing in Knoxville on Market Square. Norm and I went with my sister for the last few years. It’s always fun, and one doesn’t need a partner because there are a number of singles who just like to dance. Part of the evening are two waltzes. Norm would dance with me because I love to dance. He struggled with anything that involved rhythm…in second grade his teacher took away his rhythm sticks and it caused him to be hesitant to dance or even clap to music. But, he would dance with me.

They ended the night with The Tennessee Waltz, and as I watched the dancers, I cried. Norm and I went to Mighty Musical Mondays at the Tennessee Theater and the mighty Wurlitzer organ, Dave, the organist, always closed the show with the Tennessee Waltz. Norm was amazed that I knew the words and would sing along. When we danced on the square, I would sing it. But this time, the words, “my friend stole my sweetheart from me” hit home. It wasn’t a friend, but it was in the Lord’s plan to take Norm home to walk in the garden with Him.

This morning I considered staying home but went to church anyway. The first song we sang in worship was in 3/4 time, a waltz. The Lord reached out to let me know that He has me covered. He will walk with me through this time of adjustment and be with me until He takes me home to walk in the garden with Him alongside Norm.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for God’s faithfulness to remind me that He knows all that I’m going through and He has a plan.

I pray for the wisdom to walk each day, noticing the people around me who may need encouragement just to make it through the day.

I rejoice that God not only has His eye on me, He rejoices over me with singing.

Where’s the joy? It’s all around, I just need to open my eyes to see it.

The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the afflicted; He has sent me to bind up the hearts of the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives and freedom to prisoners; to proclaim the favorable year of the Lord and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn, to grant to those who mourn in Zion, giving them a garland instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the mantle of praise instead of the spirit of fainting. So they will be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified. Isaiah 61:1-3.

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on August 12, 2025 by tricialathrop

August 11

I’ve been sorting and packing up Norm’s computer gaming gear. I have his photos on discs, thanks to my kids. I haven’t looked at those yet, thousands to sort through. It will take time and more emotional stamina than I have right now.

Going through Norm’s things is an emotional process that I don’t want to do, but necessary.

I’m finished traveling for a few months. There is a lot to be done and I am so good at procrastinating. Little by little I’m coming out of the fog. Each day I’m trying to do at least one thing to move forward.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for the memories I have with Norm. We had a good 45 years together, a lot of fun along with a few struggles. I am glad for the sorrow I feel for it reminds me of the love we had.

I pray for courage to move forward and emotional stamina to endure the pain from losing Norm.

I rejoice that whatever comes my way, God will be with me and will take care of me…even when I don’t see His hand at work.

Where’s the joy? Norm is walking with the Lord in His garden, no more pain and no more suffering.

Revelation 21:1–7 (NASB95): The New Heaven and Earth
1 Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the first heaven and the first earth passed away, and there is no longer any sea.
2 And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, made ready as a bride adorned for her husband.
3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne, saying, “Behold, the tabernacle of God is among men, and He will dwell among them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself will be among them,
4 and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away.”
5 And He who sits on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” And He said, “Write, for these words are faithful and true.”
6 Then He said to me, “It is done. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. I will give to the one who thirsts from the spring of the water of life without cost.
7 “He who overcomes will inherit these things, and I will be his God and he will be My son.

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on July 25, 2025 by tricialathrop

July 24

I keep hoping this is all a bad dream and I will awaken to find Norm still with me.

I drove to Waterrock Knob where we spread his ashes. Unlike that morning, the fog had lifted and I could see the mountains.

Where’s the joy? Some days are tougher than others and it’s difficult to be joyful.

I am thankful for the promises of God which He will keep regardless of how I feel.

I pray for courage to walk each day, remembering that God has a plan for my life moving forward.

I rejoice in the Lord God, for all my hope is in Him.

Where’s the joy? It is found in Christ, regardless of the circumstances. Sometimes it comes easily, other times, it is a choice.

Do not be grieved, for the joy of the Lord is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on July 14, 2025 by tricialathrop

July 14

Today would have been Norm’s 69th birthday. Last year we rode the Alpine Loop and enjoyed spending time around the Million Dollar Highway. No sign of anything seriously wrong.

I decided not to stay home and am heading to a writer’s conference. Today I get to meet up with a former pastor. Not sure how well I’ll hold it together, but I’ve learned that it’s okay to cry in front of others…can’t stop the tears anyway.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful that I have outlets for my grief and I don’t have to go it alone.

I pray for strength and wisdom as I walk this week.

I rejoice in the God of my salvation. Because of Jesus’ death and resurrection, Norm is celebrating in heaven with Him, having seen Jesus face to face.

Where’s the joy? It’s in the hope that only Jesus provides.


See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. For this reason the world does not know us, because it did not know Him.
Beloved, now we are children of God, and it has not appeared as yet what we will be. We know that when He appears, we will be like Him, because we will see Him just as He is.
And everyone who has this hope fixed on Him purifies himself, just as He is pure.
Everyone who practices sin also practices lawlessness; and sin is lawlessness.
You know that He appeared in order to take away sins; and in Him there is no sin.

1 John 3:1-5

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on July 11, 2025 by tricialathrop

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THE UNBIDDEN TEAR

The song, the photo, the kind look

It’s the small things,

And my heart is squeezed by a vise

And the tear falls.

The holidays, the anniversary, the birthday

I’m steeled to make it through the day

But a memory rips through my heart like an eagle’s talon

And the tear falls

Hearing a joke I want to share

Turning to him, but he isn’t there

A dark cloud of loneliness seeps into my heart

And the tear falls.

Sorting through his things

What to keep? What to give away?

Each memory pierces through the wall I’ve built

And the tear falls.

The memories are good. 

Friends and family stand near

The love of the Lord envelops me in a warm hug

And still, the tear falls.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for all the memories of Norm, even though right now they evoke tears, they are good memories.

I pray for my friends who have cancer or are walking through cancer with a loved one. Carol and Mark, Carl and Paula, Don and Darlene, Mark and Kym, Donna and Dan

I rejoice that God’s love remains, at times it takes everything within us to stand in that love…and He remains faithful to us through it all.

Where’s the joy? My great-nephews and I have a mini golf challenge going for the summer. They get me out of the house for a day of fun.

For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. 

He only is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be shaken. 

On God rests my salvation and my glory; my mighty rock, my refuge is God. 

Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us. Selah 

Ps 62:5–8.

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on July 3, 2025 by tricialathrop

July 3

Norm’s birthday is coming up. So I’ve been thinking a lot about his last birthday. He seemed healthy, and we had a great time.

We traveled to Lake City in Colorado, a place to stay if you want to do the Alpine Loop. He rented an off-highway vehicle (OHV) and we drove on the narrow, dirt roads with multiple tight hairpin turns. He offered to let me drive, but I said no…I didn’t want to be the one to miscalculate the edge of the road and end up tumbling down the mountain. Granted, we did have roll bars, but who wants to have to use them?

July is a good time to visit. The mountain flowers can be seen in their full glory…of course it’s a brief glory, and we hit it at prime color last year.

We drove to Silverton one day, we liked to have lunch and shop there. As we left lunch, hail began to fall. We figured it would be short lived, no bad weather was expected. We watched the hail build up, looked like snow…enough to build a snowman. We still had to go back over the mountains, on those narrow roads…now covered with snow and hail. Norm took it slow and we got some beautiful pictures.

We visited an old gold mine, some ghost towns, and took a gondola ride up the side of a mountain along the Million Dollar Highway…steep, but not narrow and paved all the way. I drove that one.

We didn’t know that would be the last time. He was looking forward to talking the kids into joining us one summer.

Within a month, his health took a downturn. We didn’t suspect cancer at all…lyme disease, possibly…but not cancer. By the end of August he hardly had the strength to leave the house and it took 3 months to discover the cancer.

This is ending up being as tough as our anniversary. The memory of his strength and stamina, his joy of driving in the mountains, his joy in photography of nature…very real as I remember our trip last year.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful that I chose to go with him last year…one never knows when it will be the last.

I pray for those who are facing an unknown or cancer diagnosis, that they will be given the strength to endure, and some times of joy in the midst of it.

I rejoice that God gives us joyful memories, and sometimes allows the rough times to fade so that the best remains.

Where’s the joy? I have been able to enjoy some very special memories. Though they are tinged with grief, they are great memories.

Bless the Lord, O my soul,
And all that is within me, bless His holy name.
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
And forget none of His benefits;
Who pardons all your iniquities,
Who heals all your diseases;
Who redeems your life from the pit,
Who crowns you with lovingkindness and compassion;
Who satisfies your years with good things,
So that your youth is renewed like the eagle.
The Lord performs righteous deeds
And judgments for all who are oppressed.
He made known His ways to Moses,
His acts to the sons of Israel.
The Lord is compassionate and gracious,
Slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness.
He will not always strive with us,
Nor will He keep His anger forever.
He has not dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
So great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him.
As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.
Just as a father has compassion on his children,
So the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him.
For He Himself knows our frame;
He is mindful that we are but dust.
As for man, his days are like grass;
As a flower of the field, so he flourishes.
When the wind has passed over it, it is no more,
And its place acknowledges it no longer.
But the lovingkindness of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear Him,
And His righteousness to children’s children,
To those who keep His covenant
And remember His precepts to do them.
The Lord has established His throne in the heavens,
And His sovereignty rules over all.
Bless the Lord, you His angels,
Mighty in strength, who perform His word,
Obeying the voice of His word!
Bless the Lord, all you His hosts,
You who serve Him, doing His will.
Bless the Lord, all you works of His,
In all places of His dominion;
Bless the Lord, O my soul!

Psalm 103

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Posted on June 28, 2025 by tricialathrop

June 28

Some advice: If your spouse dies before you, do not take their name off the bank account for about six months. When the checks come in their name, you can deposit them if the person’s name is still on the account. Fortunately, those who sent a check have been willing to reissue a check in my name.

I had a great week at Hilton Head. My room faced the ocean, I could walk in the waves in the morning and evening, refreshing and relaxing. My daughter came with my grandkids. We had fun at the pool and the beach. My son came for a couple of days. We went to Harbor Town and played some miniature golf, as well as walking the beach. I saw my other daughter on the way home. All good.

One morning as I walked, I saw a crowd of people. Hilton Head has a turtle trot every Wednesday over the summer. A large group stood ready to run the 5K. One of the boys took off like a shot, leading the group. He won, perhaps he led the whole way.

The young man who impressed me encouraged the other runners. I watched him speak to each one as he passed them, or if they passed him. “You’re doing great. Keep going. You can do this.”

That’s who I want to be. Not out front running on my own, but in the midst of the pack, sometimes ahead, sometimes behind, but always giving words of encouragement.

I realized, that takes intentionality. It doesn’t happen naturally. I get moody. My expectations aren’t met. Life happens and my focus changes.

As I walked, I pondered how to make it happen.

  1. When I was a young mom, a couple, Wayne and Ginny Gasper, at our church wrote notes to people. Their note would always start off with, “You’ve won our prayer lottery for today. We prayed for you.” And then a note that encouraged me. An older woman, Betty Sisson, wrote notes to missionaries and those who helped at the church. Just a few minutes each day, and I can encourage at least one person a day.
  2. When Norm got ill, I stepped aside from leading a Bible Study. I am so thankful for Vickie who stepped in to lead it while I took care of Norm. She did a great job and the group continued. They’re taking the summer off, so I’m going to catch up in my own study to where they are, and begin again in the fall. Meanwhile, we will meet a few times over the summer to connect and to pray.
  3. I also stepped aside from singing in a local women’s chorus. There were more issues going on than Norm’s illness, and Norm told me not to return to that group. But, I enjoy singing at nursing homes and rehab centers, so will be joining a group that does that.
  4. And lastly, I want to be intentional about my writing. This blog has been therapy for me, and I think it has been encouraging to others. I also write Bible studies and devotionals. I’m going to a writer’s conference in a few weeks. I want to get back to attending the local Word Weavers group.

Tonight, I feel good. I’ve had some good cries yesterday and today. I’m missing Norm’s humor, his insights, his support. I know more tough days lie ahead, but right now, I feel positive about what lies ahead.

I am thankful for God’s grace and for the gift of hope that He gives each day.

I pray for the persistence to be intentional in following Christ, encouraging others and living life to the fullest.

I rejoice in the Lord who saves. Without Him, there is no hope.

Where’s the joy? It is in the Lord God Almighty, maker of heaven and earth.

Shout joyfully to the Lord, all the earth.
Serve the Lord with gladness; Come before Him with joyful singing.
Know that the Lord Himself is God; It is He who has made us, and not we ourselves;
We are His people and the sheep of His pasture.
Enter His gates with thanksgiving And His courts with praise.
Give thanks to Him, bless His name.
For the Lord is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting
And His faithfulness to all generations.

Psalm 100

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