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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk.

April 15

It’s been a tough day. I saw this picture and thought “I will not see this smile again”…at least not until I get to heaven. On the worst of my days, Norm could always make me laugh.

Sometimes I can push through, other times I am overwhelmed with sorrow. I know it is to be expected, it doesn’t make the pain any less. When you love someone, it hurts when they are gone.

I miss his presence, his laughter, his wisdom…the house is very quiet without him. I can turn on the TV or music…just not the same.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for the great memories that I have of Norm. We loved each other, raised wonderful kids, and had some great adventures.

I pray for grace for myself, and that I will extend grace to others.

I rejoice that God is faithful. He has a plan. I can trust Him to do what is best, and to walk me through the path He has laid out before me.

Where’s the joy? Great memories.

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

April 5

I texted Norm today. I just needed to let him know how much I miss him. My head knows he’s gone, my heart grieves his passing, but part of me still denies the finality of his death.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for the blessing of Norm in my life.

I pray for the strength and wisdom to walk this earth as God would have me walk.

I rejoice that death is not final, that because of Jesus Christ, there is more to come.

Where’s the joy? Hope in the Lord.

O Lord, who may abide in Your tent? Who may dwell on Your holy hill?

He who walks with integrity, and works righteousness, and speaks truth in his heart.

He does not slander with his tongue, nor does evil to his neighbor, nor takes up a reproach against his friend; in whose eyes a reprobate is despised, but who honors those who fear the Lord;

He swears to his own hurt and does not change; He does to put out his money at interest, nor does he take a bribe against the innocent.

He who does these things will never be shaken.

Psalm 15

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Where’s the Joy? A Widow’s Walk

Norman Douglas Lathrop, 68, passed away peacefully on Thursday, March 6, 2025 at UT Medical Center, with his wife and daughters present. 

Norm was born in Hammond, Indiana to Charles Sumner and Marilyn Francis Lathrop on July 14, 1956. He spent his childhood at Sharon Center, Ohio with his siblings Brian Keith Lathrop and Joyce Ellen Lathrop Davis. He graduated from Highland High School in Medina County, Ohio. He earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Engineering at the University of Kentucky. He was a mechanical engineer for over 30 years, specializing in jet engines, steam, and gas turbines.

Norm loved spending time with his family. He married Patricia Jo Akers Lathrop on June 21, 1980. He often took his children, Jennifer Joy Lathrop, Aimee Elizabeth Lathrop Woodin, and Robert Michael Lathrop on hiking adventures and various museums. He was a doting “Poppop” to Sierra Mae Woodin and Sawyer Robert Woodin whom he entertained with stories of his adventures and those of his children. 

Norm was a man of diverse passions. He explored history, expressed himself through drawing and storytelling, found solace in hiking, and captured beauty through photography. After retiring in 2014, he embarked on a journey to visit every U.S. National Park, successfully completing those in the contiguous United States and Hawaii, along with several in Alaska. His keen eye captured breathtaking landscapes, earning him photography awards. He also dedicated years to crafting detailed Civil War uniforms for 1/6 scale action figures. During the pandemic, he discovered a love for woodworking, creating cherished items for family and friends.

A devout follower of Jesus Christ, Norm shared his faith through teaching Junior High Sunday School, leading Bible studies, and engaging in thoughtful discussions about scripture. In his final days, his deepest longing was to walk and converse with the Lord in His garden.

He expressed profound gratitude for the compassionate care provided by the doctors, nurses, and staff at UT Medical Center, who diligently worked to extend his life.

Norm wanted everyone to know that he fought as hard as he could to survive the cancer. He appreciated all the prayers and good thoughts of his family, friends, and people he did not know. He was amazed and humbled by the love shown by so many.

Norm’s absence will be deeply felt by all who had the privilege of knowing him.

In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation to the National Park Service, St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, or another charity of your choice.

Yesterday, we had a Celebration of Life service for Norm. It all went beautifully. We displayed some of his artwork, photos, and some artwork by his granddaughter, Sierra.

Several stood to share what Norm had meant to them, and stories of his humor, his storytelling, and his dedication to the Lord. My children spoke of how great he was as a father. His friends spoke of his living life to the fullest and how he encouraged them.

I didn’t speak…couldn’t trust myself to keep it together. But I loved hearing how he ministered and cared for the people around him. After the service, several who had prayed for Norm, but never met him, wished they had met him.

I am amazed that I was able to get through the day. I have a theory: When we come together to honor someone who has died, I think God takes the grief that would fall on the family and spreads it out among all who attend, or who had desired to attend, because the grief on that day would be too much for the spouse or child to bear alone.

I know that the continued prayers of family and friends are giving me the strength I need to get through these first few weeks. There is so much that needs to be done. It’s overwhelming at times.

But the tears are flowing easier now. My family has been a real blessing, my children and siblings have made sure I’m not alone. Twenty-one of us went to one of Norm’s favorite restaurants for lunch, Hot Rods in Alcoa, TN. It was a great time together.

I feel his loss…I cry for me, he’s much better off, walking in the garden with the Lord. God still has more for me here.

I read Norm’s pondering while he was in the midst of chemo, and it looked like he was going to survive and be able to get out and do. His question, “What will I do with my extra days?”

As I continue on this road as a widow, it is a question for my own life. “What will I do with the days that God has granted me?”

He who watches the wind will not sow and he who looks at the clouds will not reap.

Just as you do not know the path of the wind and how bones are formed in the womb of the pregnant woman, so you do not know the activity of God who makes all things.

Sow your seed in the morning and do not be idle in the evening, for you do not know whether morning or evening sowing will succeed, or whether both of them alike will be good.

Ecclesiastes 11:4-6

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for all the people who came to Norm’s Celebration of Life, to share what they knew of Norm, or to support me and my family in this time of grief.

I pray for wisdom to walk this path, allowing myself to grieve, but not to shut myself off from the people whom God will place in my path, either for my benefit, or theirs.

I rejoice that God’s plan is good and He will be faithful to me and my family as we walk this path of grief.

Where’s the joy? I find joy in the people that God has placed in my life, family and friends, and others I have not met as yet.

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Where’s the Joy?

March 3

Norm didn’t want me to leave when they did the new breathing trial. Today was the fourth attempt. The ones he had done earlier really spooked me. But, I stayed, holding his hand as he endured the fear and the pain of the reduced meds and oxygen. He did better, but they still could not get the tube out.

Palliative care spoke to me. The question, what if they can’t get the tube out? What if they get the tube out and he has to have the tube reinserted? Having the doctor ask me those questions with Norm in such a vulnerable state made his possible death more real. I was already questioning whether he would be able to survive this still unknown infection. The music therapist and chaplain came by, I had a very weepy day, I cried a lot.

The ventilator is used to keep someone alive while they discover what is wrong or while the medicines heal the body. They have pretty well done all they can for Norm, still unknown cause and they have used every antibiotic and anti fungal to attack any known agent. Each one seemed to work…a little, but not to knock out whatever this is. There is still some hope that the sample sent to Washington will come up with an answer…hopefully this week.

I need to talk to the kids about options. If they are able to get the tube out, then Norm will be able to tell the doctors whether he wants CPR and a reinsertion of the tube. If he is unable to make the decision, then it falls to me.

He’s swollen from this initial insertion, another would cause more issues. CPR may cause more damage in his weakened state. He’s been near death a few times in the past five months, and has rallied to the point that he seemed well on his way to recovery.

Will he rally this time? I don’t know what God will do. I live in a state of limbo, not knowing.

I’m sure Norm is there too. If he could speak, maybe he would say more. Fears and uncertainty cloud his future. He was awake all day today, and had time to consider it. I sat by his side, holding his hand, watching him struggle and thankful for meds that gave him some comfort.

He tried to communicate, I did understand some things. A matter of guessing and having him nod or shake his head. I’m usually decent at guessing charades…not so much acting it out…but not today.

Where’s the joy?

I am thankful for each person who has poured into Norm’s life during this hospital stay. They seem to really care, and don’t treat him as just a client.

I pray for God’s best for Norm, and strength to walk whatever comes our way with grace.

I rejoice that God is in control.

Let the glory of the Lord endure forever; Let the Lord be glad in His works; He looks at the earth and it trembles; He touches the mountains and they smoke.

I will sing to the Lord as long as I live; I will sing praise to my God while I have my being, Let my meditations be pleasing to Him; As for me, I shall be glad in the Lord.

Bless the Lord, oh my soul. Praise the Lord!

Psalm 104:31-35

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